Most of us don't listen to understand, we listen to reply. If we are having a conversation, we are constantly thinking of how to make sure, we are understood. We want our arguments to be heard and do not focus on the arguments the other one might have. A conversation like that, might end up in a discussion and turn around the same arguments, without any side realizing that they have the same, or almost the same opinion. So how can we actively listen? First of all, there is a