So many times, we find ourselves in the situation, that we do not agree with someone else upon a topic, upon specific rules or just on anything. That is when the communication starts going south and an annoying situation is being created with another person, which cannot and shouldn't be ignored. This is what is called a conflict. When a conflict arises, we have several choices: · We can either simply accept it, · avoid it, or · deal with it and work on it. The latter is the

I haven’t posted an article in a while… So many things were happening around me. Good and bad things. Our 2020 world still is upside down and life is everything else but normal. Those who claimed to have adapted the “new normal” along the past few month, start realizing that it wasn’t normal in the end and we still miss some things we have lost along the way. I don't mean to do a review on this year, as frankly the year 2020 can just go and it’s ok to never look back on it. I

Although we are all different and have different levels of self-confidence, there are a lot of things that we find embarrassing. For some it’s being seen naked, for others being found out that they are not able to do something and yet for others it is the little things that happen all day, like burping in a restaurant or spilling food on your shirt. For all it is to be seen in some kind of way, that was not meant to be, an unwanted attention to private matters or personal fla

Today I received an email from a very dear student of mine, thanking me for my empathy and listening to her in troubled times. Her words were flattering, came from the heart and moved me. She sent me this poem, which is attributed to be from Charlie Chaplin at his 70’th birthday. No matter if it is, or not, it expresses in way better words, I could ever find, the way this year 2020 has transformed me. Here it goes: “As I began to love myself, I found that anguish and emotiona

We have to give feedback to the ones we work with and the ones we live with all the time. At least we should. As all of us have been on the receiving end of feedback, we know how bad this sometimes is prepared and given. Not many do seem to have the right skillset to do that. So, we end up receiving badly conducted feedback, which will most definitely demotivate us, instead of motivating us to change our behavior. If we turn the perspective and put ourselves on the sending si

For today’s post I had to borrow some words from the amazingly talented Bruno Mars. Although Bruno sings it to his significant other, he is trying to convince her that she is amazing, just the way she is. Would she accept it? Most probably not. Why is it so hard for us to accept that we are amazing, just the way we are? We are all different from all other people. Which is a good thing, isn’t it? We have our very own style, do dress, to walk, to speak, to do whatever we do. We

Lately I have been reading so many articles and posts on all social media platforms, about how amazing the “new normal” is how we can work and meet online these days. The articles point out how much more efficient online meetings are and how much time and money we save by meeting and conferencing through zoom, teams etc. I want to agree with all of the authors of these posts and say YES it’s amazing, that we can do that. It is a positive aspect of this horrific crisis, that i

There is one thing that is important for any meeting or event. Be it online, offline or hybrid. That one thing is the moderation or facilitation. To put it in other words, there is no gathering of people in whatever way, that would not benefit from a good and skilled moderation or facilitation. The moderator/facilitator is the one holding the strings, setting the tone, controlling the time, working towards the solutions, avoiding misunderstandings and offering structure. All

Step by step meetings and events are finding their way back into our daily work life. Some of us are actually going to the office again, others are working remotely. Meetings and events are mostly still happening online. But thankfully they are happening again. I can’t stress out enough, how important the communication is. I think the Corona times have finally shown everyone in any industry that meetings and events are not only the place where people gather to have a chat, a

The other day I was at a dating evening. One of those, where single people meet to get to know other people and maybe find common interests. Being a single it is my interest not to stay that forever and maybe one day find my significant other somewhere. By swiping left and right I don't see that happening for me. I definitely prefer the real face-to-face version to see if attraction is there. But real interaction beyond swiping is complicated. As in any occasion, where people

I have received a lot of positive feedback on my post about turning negative self-talk into positive from a couple of weeks ago. This is a topic a lot of people can relate to in these very challenging times. We can see an increase of emotionally stressed people struggling to overcome all the problems that the crisis has caused. We are already seeing the negative impact on relationships, be it private or business and an increase of stress and depression, caused by fear, loneli

Honesty is one of the most important characteristics I have found in business and life! It sets the tone for your work culture, builds loyalty and trust from your employees and customers and gives you the fundamental basis for a long-lasting authentic relationship with other human beings. I have been in different companies and have worked with a lot of different people in my life. Different people have different work ethics and different values. And that is a good thing, as I

I have been giving lectures recently to students of meetings & events, that were preparing for their final exam. Scary time! Although they had studied so hard and learned so much over the last couple of years, working within the industry alongside their study, they felt they were not well prepared for the exam. They thought they would screw up, when confronted with the situation they had to perform. Don't we all feel like this again and again in our lives? It doesn't have to

We all need motivation to be able to fulfil a task and achieve big goals. Sometimes we can’t seem to start what we had planned to do and so we end up postponing, or not doing it at all. But what is this mysterious power, that helps us achieve our goals or fail even trying? And how do we get it? Motivation is described as the general willingness to do something. Psychologists tell us there are two main types of motivation. Intrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation. They di

Negotiation is like performing a dance You move smoothly from one side to the other You speed it up and slow it down You turn left and you turn right, back and forth. It is that state of flow which is the basis of every great negotiation. And it takes a lot of practice You always have to consider, that you want one thing, while your negotiation partner might want something else. How do you create a situation, that you can call win-win? Here are 5 steps to achieve that: 1. G

Communication starts in your head. Our brain is wonderful and mysterious organ. It is working all the time, day and night. We cannot stop it from thinking a million thoughts… …well that is not exactly true. Researchers estimate that we think about 50.000 to 70.000 thoughts per day. Some of them are neutral to our behavior and our communication, most of them though define how we interact with others and how we feel. They have an immediate impact on the way we communicate with

Being in the lockdown brings out some of the most interesting things in us. For me, staying at home and working from there is not a new thing. I have been practicing that for a while. What I really do miss, is the face-to-face meetings with colleagues, clients and especially the travels to events all over the world, including the pleasures of interacting with many people while giving a speech. So, my days have been a little more monotonous lately. And so have yours. What I ha

Transcript of the video engaging meetings is a company focused on enhancing the human-to-human communication and Meeting Design. We do coaching, training, seminars and lectures and consult in human-to-human communication Today I want to talk about communication in general and in times of crisis First communication in general: Communication is based on many different layers. Many elements have to come together to make a good communication happen. Communication works best, when

The human being is a social being. We are looking for commonality, we are looking for friendship and devotion. It helps us, when we help someone else. We feel better, when we smile at someone else. No matter if that person will smile back or not. But I promise, he or she will! A smile is like a virus, I’s contagious. Facebook, twitter and Instagram only work, because they feed our need of belonging to someone else. To a group, to a community, to other human beings. Real frien

The human being is a social being. Communication is the basis of any social encounters with other human beings. How to communicate is something we learn early on at a stage, when we cannot even speak a word. As babies we learn the first types of communication to be able to show our surrounding that we need a change, are hungry or just need social contact. When we learn words, we learn how to arrange them to express what we want and need, what we fear and some of us even learn